Love Loving Love – Nov 1985

Ruth Pfau, nun and Doctor, for many decades in Pakistan, in one of her books describes a dialogue with a Muslim or non-religious friend who asks her about the Trinity in Christianity.

She replies, if I remember, that if God is Love then the Love must not only be directed towards something or someone but also the overflowing must be part of it… He is stunned.

Corrie ten Boom, in her autobiography, describes how her father suggested to her, when she was abandoned by her fiancée, she may want to offer the love she felt for him – to God. And she did.

It seems to me that the inner movement both these episodes describe, taking into account that ‘the only g-o-d worth talking about can’t be talked about’ as I once read, – describe a realisation of a certain human potential, perhaps a specific response to abundance.

In my narrative memory, Jesus advises his followers to go out to see people and advises not when rejected to wipe the dust of their feet but advises them that the love they had to give would stay with them.

Beyond the words I don’t have and beyond the religion I don’t follow, I can only point in the direction of the experience I had in one psychodrama session – playing a friend’s sister. In the scene, my friend was sitting opposite her sister and repeating over and over, ‘I can’t help you, I can’t help you…’ Yet, I, acting as antagonist, did not feel rejected – but an abundance of love. Love stayed with me.

sitting in the round

on a cushion, shining invisibly –

a new loneliness?

Prof. Godehard Bruntrup SJ in a youtube video describes his near-death experience as being embraced by love and reflects it might leave one with the desire to become a monk, dedicated to sing of that love (my wording) – yet, perhaps, he adds, one had to return to the world and add structure to the experience (or words to that effect).


first published on this blog in 2014, revised in January 2022

~ by Barbara S on January 6, 2022.

One Response to “Love Loving Love – Nov 1985”

  1. The psychiatrist who developed Psychodrama, Jacob Levy Moreno, says of this kind of therapeutic play ‘Every true second time liberates from the first…’ So, even if I did not suffer exactly this type of emotional abandonment in my childhood, the acting liberated me. It even triggered an insight not yet mentioned. And it did more – it started a series of echoes of moments – impossible to say which was the first one: All liberated from ..

    As the Zen-Buddhist koan might put it: Where was I before was abandonned to my liberation?

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